Counselling Services for Sex & Sexuality

Counselling for sex or sexuality covers a broad spectrum. It includes topics like sexual dysfunction or behavioral concerns, sexual health, sexual identity, addictions and trauma, and much more.

Topics surrounding sex or sexuality can often be difficult to discuss with others for many various reasons. However having a safe outlet to discuss these issues can be critically important to our wellbeing and personal connections.

Sexual health and wellness is one of these so-called ‘taboo’ topics that often needs to be addressed, but many find it to be a difficult subject to get started with.

Examples of sex or sexuality topics include:

• Sexual health and function
• Unbalance in sex drive between partners
• Compulsive sexual behaviours
• Pornography and online sexual behaviours
• Infidelity and betrayal
• Gender identity and LGBTTQQ2S+ topics
• Sexual abuse, coercion, and consent
• Feelings of shame, denial, guilt, and other strong emotions

In an ideal world, talking about sex and sexuality would be a natural and healthy part of any relationship (whether sexual or otherwise). But it’s incredibly hard for many people to allow themselves to be open and vulnerable on these topics.

Whatever you’re going through, I’m here to be a safe outlet for you to share your experiences, thoughts, and feelings – without feeling judged.

You are welcome to safely talk about anything during our time together. Discussing sex and sexuality topics is extremely common – and normal – between client and counsellor.

In addition to discussing a specific topic, counselling can help you work through related feelings and emotions.

Shame and denial, for example, are very often associated with topics surrounding sex or sexuality. These are strong forces that tend to perpetuate problems, and counselling can help you understand them.

Here are some examples of the various topics I can discuss with you:

Sexual health & function

• Decrease in sex drive
• Painful intercourse
• Erectile dysfunction
• Premature ejaculation
• Delayed ejaculation
• Sexual arousal disorder
• Orgasmic disorders
• Unexplained changes in sex drive
• Sexual inhibition

Unbalanced sex drive between partners

• Dissatisfaction with the quality or quantity of sex
• Feelings of rejection
• Withholding sex
• Differences in personal or religious views

Compulsive sexual behaviours

• Porn addiction
• Sex addiction
• Compulsive masturbating

Pornography & online sex behaviours

• Over-use of pornography
• Differing views of the use of pornography
• Feelings of betrayal over use of pornography or interactive sexual interactions (cybersex, etc.)
• Concerns about erotic orientation (i.e., the type of pornography that is used)
• Shame in regard to any of these issues

Infidelity & betrayal

• Sexual or emotional affairs or “cheating”
• Unfaithfulness between partners in a marriage or other relationship
• Concerns over past sexual partners
• Hiding sexual behaviours from your partner
• Differing opinions on what constitutes infidelity
• Object affair, neglect to pursue outside interests
• Cyber affairs, “sexting” or chatting
• Repeated affairs or compulsion

LGBTTQQ2S+ topics

• Challenges faced by those who identify as lesbian, gay, bi/pan sexual, transgender, two-spirited, intersex
  
• Issues over gender identity and sexual orientation
• Questioning and/or queer, including confusion, rejection, and shame
• Building understanding and acceptance of yourself and others
• Deciding (and maybe practicing) talking to loved ones
• Coping with risks of social issues, abuse, and violence

Sexual abuse, coercion, & consent

• Historic or recent sexual assault trauma
• Date rape, lack of consent
• Pressure to do things you’re not comfortable with
• Associated sexual dysfunction
• Traumatic sexual experiences
• Power and control issues
• Risky sexual behaviours, such as erotic asphyxiation (“breath play”)

Regardless if your specific issue is listed above or not, counsellors are here to help you navigate the feelings and emotions you’re experiencing, without worry of shame or judgement.

Certified counsellors are trained to ask the right questions, break the ice, and start a productive dialogue about any topic surrounding sex or sexuality.

Counselling provides you with a safe, judgement-free environment where you are able to discuss your most personal thoughts.

During our time together, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable without fear of repercussions or retribution.

Just bringing up topics of sex and sexuality can be difficult for many people. If you need a safe place to talk, I’m here for you. Consider a free phone consultation to get started.